Breast cancer was not in my family history.
Breast cancer was not in my thoughts at all. I lived my life as “Happy go Lucky”.
However, one-day breast cancer struck me like a thunderstorm. I was so ignorant about this subject of breast cancer, that I spent many months denying the doctors’ prognosis. I could not accept my new image of living with one breast.
It is like denying when “things that annoy you in other people are the things that annoy you about yourself”.
Welcome to the mirror dance. Would you care to dance fast, or slow?
Was I ready to dance the victim part or the winner part?
The truth is that we are all capable of every emotion and character trait. We just express and repress them to different degrees, and that reflects what we see in others.
The reason it annoys us to see traits in other people that we have not come to terms with ourselves is because, we are in the process of hiding from those traits. Denying ourselves that we have them. As we all know, being in denial is a strong state that can convince us that what we are denying really does not exist.
Therefore, we are constantly dancing through life reflecting ourselves in the mirrors of others, and vice versa. Aha, but what happens when one mirror is so clear that almost every trait you have is reflected in one specific other person?
If you accept this concept, you probably start off treasuring the friendship that person gives you, because you have so much in common. You most likely want to work with them because they have the same vision, mission and purpose in life that you have. They want to accomplish the same things, dream the same dreams.
As soon as you accept the same traits in yourself, you start loving that mirror that constantly reflect you in that mirror, you will not argue and fight with that image. You stop being annoyed by other peoples’ traits. You start making peace with other people and yourself. You learn to clean up your own clutter. Then you start liking your reflection in that mirror with a state of peace and tranquility.
What a relief! That is what I experienced when I accepted my breast cancer.
With much love,